David specializes in addictions and addictive processes, from attempting to control them to staying stopped. From the practical challenges of maintaining ‘recovery’, to the deeper questions of life purpose, meaning and motivation.
As society shows us, the confusion and emotions that surround the subject make it very hard to know how and why and when to ask for help.
In my work, addictive processes are an issue of connection- connection to oneself and connection to the world. So its a threefold challenge:
physical health, emotional health and spiritual health. The last one, spiritual health is about connection, ‘spirit’, about how we breathe in this world-comfortably or not!
Family members affected by the addictive processes of others
WHEN you visit my website you will be entering a world I have inhabited as Counsellor, Therapist, Teacher, Facilitator and survivor of addictions over the past 26 years.
My work has included clients suffering from Alcoholism, recreational drug dependencies, problem gambling, eating disorders, sex addictions, alienation and the family systems these problems affect.You will gain access through me, to the distilled wisdom of countless individuals developed over time and the clues and keys to a better quality of life.
So much is written and argued about in the field that is very challenging to find a way through. The key is to find a guide, a mentor, someone with whom you feel connected. This is often more important than any other criteria and is frequently forgotten. Relapse and collapse is so common and many in the field fail to remind us of this truth- the connections are frequently more crucial than the modalities on offer- and there are so many.
If you want to work to achieve a relaxed path to living without continually being haunted by the spectre of relapse, then it is important to do a number of things that much literature avoids. I will not do this, the work is too important.
If you want to learn how to break free of addictive patterns, call me for a no obligation chat. If we connect and you feel that I can assist we will negotiate and engage in a therapeutic process. If I am not the one, where possible I will assist in finding the right support.
If you come to me because previous attempts with other people, systems or institutions have not borne the fruit hoped for, or are still at the mercy of cravings and other relapse provoking circumstances and moods, such as shame, anger and grief, then I may be able to provide some peace of mind, if you follow my lead.
I have also worked effectively with those already in ‘recovery’ who seek greater self awareness, a deeper path to living and a sense of freedom. I look forward to meeting you.
ASK Addiction Survival Kit: Walking Back To Yourself
Finding help and facing up to the challenges presented by any confrontation with addictive processes is of itself a huge challenge. This little book is designed to help you simply START the process, by presenting perspectives and ways of exploring that don’t make you feel as if you need an academic background to participate.
Any approach to a stranger regarding such sensitive and self respect damaging processes requires a rare and potent courage and this is respected and honoured. Working at your own pace we will find the space, place and time that enables you to find the answers you are capable of.
I cannot fix you, but we may find a new way to perceive the essential character of the challenges.
I cannot take responsibility for you, but we may find new ways to carry the responsibility that divests you of unnecessary burdens.
I will not promise you ‘the answer’, but we may find a solution that gives you confidence to move forward
I possess knowledge and a lot of experience that can be shared as a result of my interactions with individuals and groups, numbered in the many hundreds.
David Chaloner B.Sc (Hons) Cert.AOD Counselling (CIT, NZ).
Therapist, Educator, Facilitator